The other self-actualization: What’s the difference between Maslow and Rogers?

Most of us have heard of Abraham Maslow and his hierarchy of needs, but Maslow doesn’t have a monopoly on self-actualization.

  • Along with Maslow, Carl Rogers helped pioneer the field of humanistic psychology.
  • Although most associate the term “self-actualization” with Maslow, it’s a concept that’s frequently found in humanistic psychological literature.
  • What’s the difference between Maslow’s and Rogers’ versions of self-actualization, and what can we learn from Rogers?

One could be forgiven for thinking that the term “self-actualization” was developed entirely by Abraham Maslow. Today, there are very few contexts where one can hear the term outside of Maslow’s famous hierarchy of needs. But in fact, the twentieth century featured many humanistic psychologists who used the term to mean one thing or another. It was first coined by psychologist Kurt Goldstein, who used it to refer to something very similar to what Maslow would later focus on: the tendency for human beings to become all that they can, that “what a man can be, he must be.”

But this isn’t the only take on self-actualization. Carl Rogers, a peer of Maslow’s, thought of humanistic psychology and self-actualization in an entirely distinct way.

Rogers’ theory of personality and behavior

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A sketch of Carl Rogers.

Along with Maslow, Rogers was one of the pioneers of humanistic psychology. Specifically, Rogers’ greatest contribution was to the practice of psychotherapy, particularly in the development of what’s known as “person-centered therapy,” which is thought of today as one of the major approaches to therapy, along with cognitive behavioral therapy, psychoanalysis, and so on.

At the core of this therapeutic approach was Rogers’ theory of personality and behavior. Just as Maslow had his hierarchy of needs, with self-actualization at the top, Rogers had his own model of human development, although self-actualization played a very different role in Rogers’ system. Rogers actually had 19 separate propositional statements upon which he built his theory, but we’ll just summarize the major components.

In Rogers’ theory, reality for an individual (which he refers to as an organism) is the sum of subjective perceptions that the organism experiences. A developing organism will take some of these perceptions and separate them, labeling them as the self. As an example, you might perceive your body and a box of paperclips on your desk, but you would only consider your perception of your body to fall under the designation of “self.” This happens with concepts and beliefs, too. Some of these things become part of the self, while others are perceived as belonging to the environment.

This idea of what counts as the self and what doesn’t isn’t fixed; it’s fluid. Different concepts, perceptions, and experiences occur as a result of interacting with the environment, and the organism has to sort out how to relate their identity to these experiences.

Naturally, this isn’t a smooth process. As a result of these interactions, most of us invent an “ideal” self, the person we think we should be, rather than the person we actually are. In Rogers’ system, the broader the gap between the real self and the ideal self, the greater the sense of incongruence. All sorts of behaviors and experiences might occur that seem unacceptable to who we think we are. If this incongruence is severe enough, the organism might develop a psychopathology. If, on the other hand, the person we actually are and the person we think we should be are congruent with one another, we become more open to experiences and have to do less work defending ourselves from the outside world.

Where does self-actualization fit into all of this?

Where Maslow had self-actualization at the very top of a hierarchy of motivations, Rogers argued that self-actualization was the only motivation and that it was constantly driving the organism forward. “The organism has one basic tendency and striving — to actualize, maintain, and enhance the experiencing organism,” wrote Rogers. For Rogers, every behavior and motivation is directed in pursuit of actualization, of this constant negotiation between the self and the perceptual field that composes an individual’s reality.

Immediately, we can see that Maslow’s version of self-actualization is a lot more aspirational. In Rogers’ system, self-actualization is sort of just the default way of life — the only way of life, in fact. And where Maslow’s version is sort of an endpoint, Rogers saw self-actualization as a never-ending process. But Rogers does have his own version of an ideal way of living, which he called, appropriately enough, “the good life.”

Living the good life

In order to live the good life, an organism must symbolically assimilate all experiences into a consistent relationship with the self. To be fair, that’s not an exactly intuitive definition. Consider, for instance, a narcissist hearing criticism. The narcissist perceives themselves to be perfect, and criticism is a threat that cannot be assimilated into their concept of their perfect self. Somebody living the “good life,” however, might take that criticism as potentially true — potentially false, too, but worth considering at the very least.

In this regard, somebody living the good life matches up neatly with Maslow’s idea of the self-actualized individual. Like Maslow, Rogers also believed that individuals living the good life would exemplify certain characteristics that would make them distinct from the fragile, neurotic, rank-and-file folks that most of us are. According to Rogers, the fully functioning person living the good life would have these characteristics:

  • An increasing openness to experience, as no experience would threaten the individual’s self-concept;
  • An increasingly existential and present lifestyle, since they wouldn’t need to distort the present in a way that fits with their self-concept;
  • Greater trust in their own values rather than those imposed upon them by, say, their parents or their society;
  • Openness to a wide variety of choices, as they wouldn’t be restricted by possible threats to their self-concept (such as a narcissist might be if they engaged in some activity that could make them appear foolish);
  • More creativity, as they wouldn’t feel the need to conform;
  • More frequently constructive rather than destructive;
  • And living a rich and full life.

Seems like a pretty good life, all in all. But Rogers also warned that not everybody is ready for the good life. He wrote,

“This process of the good life is not, I am convinced, a life for the faint-hearted. It involves the stretching and growing of becoming more and more of one’s potentialities. It involves the courage to be. It means launching oneself fully into the stream of life.”

Your Horoscopes — Week Of September 17, 2019 (theonion.com)

Virgo | Aug. 23 to Sept. 22

You’ve never really thought of yourself as a cat person, but the splicing and DNA re-sequencing will soon change all of that.

Libra | Sept. 23 to Oct. 22

The rise of Jupiter in your sign can only mean one thing! Let the stars know what it is once you look it up.

Scorpio | Oct. 23 to Nov. 21

Success is often difficult to define, though for you, it pretty much boils down to filling that cup with clean urine.

Sagittarius | Nov. 22 to Dec. 21

When life seems grim and all hope is but a distant memory, why not try weeping uncontrollably in the shower? After all, it works for your husband.

Capricorn | Dec. 22 to Jan. 19

The stars fucking give up—if you want another slice of blueberry pie, just go ahead and have another slice of blueberry pie.

Aquarius | Jan. 20 to Feb. 18

Sure, a spoonful of sugar may make the medicine go down, but if it’s suppositories you’re struggling with, the spoon isn’t going to help.

Pisces | Feb. 19 to March 20

They say the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step, but as far as you’re concerned, crap like that is for people who can get out of bed.

Aries | March 21 to April 19

This week try wearing less makeup when you leave the house, even if it means angering the other members of KISS.

Taurus | April 20 to May 20

While being a good friend means telling the truth, you’ll soon realize that being a true friend means keeping your mouth shut.

Gemini | May 21 to June 20

E.B. White always believed that punctuation should be used sparingly. But then, E.B. White was—let’s face it—a “pompous fuck”

Cancer | June 21 to July 22

If you pledge to Cancer at the $50 membership level, not only will you be supporting quality predictions in the future, but you’ll also receive this handsome Cancer tote bag.

Leo | July 23 to Aug. 22

Remember: It’s all a matter of perspective. See how your crippling finances look from atop that hill

Book: “The Americans” by Robert Frank

Photo by Robert Frank
The Americans

The Americans

by Robert Frank,

Jack Kerouac (Introduction)

Armed with a camera and a fresh cache of film and bankrolled by a Guggenheim Foundation grant, Robert Frank crisscrossed the United States during 1955 and 1956. The photographs he brought back form a portrait of the country at the time and hint at its future. He saw the hope of the future in the faces of a couple at city hall in Reno, Nevada, and the despair of the present in a grimy roofscape. He saw the roiling racial tension, glamour, and beauty, and, perhaps because Frank himself was on the road, he was particularly attuned to Americans’ love for cars. Funeral-goers lean against a shiny sedan, lovers kiss on a beach blanket in front of their parked car, young boys perch in the back seat at a drive-in movie. A sports car under a drop cloth is framed by two California palm trees; on the next page, a blanket is draped over a car accident victim’s body in Arizona. 

(Goodreads.com)

15 Signs Your Life is More on Track Than You Think it is

Photo by Rémi Jacquaint on Unsplash

Ayodeji Awosika
Aug 12 · (Medium.com)

You have dreams, goals, and this idea of who you’re supposed to be, but you don’t feel like you’re living up to any of them.

Fortunately, two things are true.

You have time to get on track.

You’re probably not as far off as you think.

Before I kick off this list, let me start by saying this — you are enough.

Not to get all Eckhart Tolle on you, but it’s important to know the person you are — as currently constructed — is capable of achieving success of any kind.

You’re not missing anything. Could you be doing more? Absolutely. Do you need a kick in the ass sometimes? Definitely. But start from the premise that the tools and ability are already there.

You’re probably doing many things well, even if everything hasn’t clicked yet. If you notice yourself displaying any of these signs, it means you can build on them to become the kind of person you want to be.

You’re Learning

You pick up a book from time to time, better yet everyday. You realize what Warren Buffet meant when he said, “The more you learn, the more you can potentially learn.”

Maybe you don’t know where your learning will take you, but you’re doing your best to acquire knowledge and develop skills. I didn’t know reading 75 books in a year would help me write two of my own, start a side business, become a better person, and give a talk in front of 1,000 people, but learning indirectly helped me do all of the above.

Keep learning. Don’t worry about where it will take you. I promise it’ll be somewhere great.

You’re (Still) Curious About the World

You haven’t resigned to your circumstances. You still believe in new possibilities for your future. This is important because resignation to your circumstances kills futures.

If you’ve managed to retain some of the curiosity you had as a child. If the world hasn’t beaten it out of you yet, hold onto it for dear life and explore your options sooner rather than later.

You’re Healthy

You understand you can’t have real success of any kind without your health. What’s a million dollars worth if you aren’t healthy enough to enjoy it?

You’re getting enough sleep. You’re exercising and eating right because you want your engine running smoothly to allow you to tackle new goals. If you have your health, you’ve given yourself room to let other things fall into place.

You Know What You’re Passionate About

Sure, you don’t have the dream career of life you want quite yet, but you have a pretty good idea of what both look like. Once I knew I wanted to be a writer, I settled in and got to work, because knowing your passion is just the start.

If you’ve found something you enjoy doing — writing, art, coding, fixing cars, online marketing, engineering — you’ve won half the battle.

Making the most out of your passionate pursuit is an entirely different story. Becoming the best at what you do takes years, decades even, so settle in. You’ll experience leaps in knowledge along the way and be astounded at how much you’ve learned, while simultaneously realizing how much you don’t know.

You Know How to Follow Directions

You’re done being hard-headed. When you find yourself around people smarter than you, you actually listen to them.

Listening and following directions is a skill many people don’t have.

Whatever you want to pursue in life has a guide developed by the people who’ve walked the same path.

Many people make excuses, proclaim how special their situation is, and try to reinvent the wheel when it’s unnecessary.

If you’ve developed the skill of listening and implementing directions, you have a superpower relative to the rest of the population.

You Know How to Work

You see work as a learning experience. Even if you aren’t in your dream career or vocation, you realize the importance of paying your dues. Most don’t understand this. They think the success should come first, then they’ll be productive.

People who commit to doing the work on every rung of the ladder — without skipping any — have the rare ability to understand their field from the top down. Patience is in short supply these days. If you know how to work, you know how to win.

You Know Your Financial Picture

You have to have a crystal clear picture of your finances, even if they aren’t good. If they aren’t good, ignoring them only compounds the problem. You’re at the point where you realize the decisions you make now will affect you years down the line.

Knowing is the first step. The second is finding ways to either earn more or save more. Choose the former. Become more valuable.

You’re Comfortable in Your Own Skin

You look in the mirror and see a flawed human being, but you’re not only okay with your flaws, but you also embrace them — even love them.

The most confident people in the world come in all shapes, sizes, background, and circumstances. They have their own cocktail of DNA strings and idiosyncrasies. They embrace their weirdness.

Let your freak flag fly, because there’s nothing more attractive and successful than being yourself.

You’re Done Making Excuses For Yourself

You realize you do have some legitimate beef with your circumstances and could make valid excuses, but you won’t. Because you realize making excuses and complaining don’t…do anything. They’re not strategies.

If you’ve said to yourself, “Ok. This is where I’m at now. What am I going to do about it?” you’re ready.

You See the World for What it is

You’re grounded in reality instead of the way things should be. You’re not a pessimist, but you do realize the downsides that come with life and dealing with other people. Not only do you know these truths, but you prepare for them.

You don’t expect the worst from everyone, but you are no longer shocked when people mistreat you or others.

You don’t see the world a bleak place, but you realize it is inherently unfair and operate within the bounds of its inherent unfairness instead of wishing things were different.

You Allow Yourself to Screw Up

You no longer seek to be perfect. If you skip a workout, morning routine, or task on your to-do list, you don’t freak out and call it quits altogether. If you have the ability to forgive yourself when you mess up and move on quickly, you’ll be free to be more ambitious, because you’re not scared to death of mistakes like many.

You’re Surrounding Yourself with Good People

You see the impact of your peer-group on your own life. You no longer tolerate toxic people. As hard as it is to let go, you’ve removed toxic people and those around you who can negatively affect your future by way of complacency. Thinking this way isn’t selfish. It’s your life and the people in it sway its direction.

You’re surrounding yourself with like-minded positive people because you’re ready to move forward instead of sit still.

You’re a Thief

You’ve learned many of the world’s greatest questions have been answered. Many paths have been followed. You can still be original, but you realize originality comes from theft.

As Austin Kleon says, “Steal from one and it’s plagiarism. Steal from 200 and it’s original.” In your phase of learning, you aspire to steal as much useful information, insight, and strategy from others, because life is short and you don’t want to waste time trying to figure something out that others already have.

You’ve Failed Without Losing Hope

You’ve experienced a setback, but you didn’t let it demoralize you. Instead, you’re mature enough to realize the opportunity in failure.

You shouldn’t try to fail on purpose. Failing sucks. But there’s a certain sense of peace in knowing failure doesn’t break you — like a scar that heals over and makes the skin tougher. Toughness may be the most important skill when it comes to reaching success of any kind.

You’re Done Caring About What Others Think

For better or worse, you’re ready to live your life. We’ve all succumb to the trap of other people’s opinions. As Marcus Aurelius says, “It surprises me: How is it we care about ourselves more than anyone else yet value their opinions more than our own?”

How many lives have been ruined by following the expectations of one’s parents, peers, and society? The minute you stop letting other people’s opinions dictate the course of your life, you’re free to do something few human beings are able to do — what you want.

What to do Next

You have potential. Maybe everything isn’t going exactly the way you want it to, but you realize things aren’t totally out of whack.

Like you, I spend most of my time thinking about what I want to be in the future and what I want my life to be like. I’ve reached many levels of success I once thought unfathomable, but I haven’t cured my longing for more or my sense of incompleteness — does anyone?

If you learn to decipher between feeling like you’re off track and actually being off track, you’ll learn how to course-correct over time. Your mind plays tricks on you to make you feel inadequate, but it can also signal a need for real change in your life. Know your situation is a mixture of both.

We’re all just human beings struggling to become better versions of ourselves.

If you haven’t given up the fight on getting that right, you’re on track.

You’re okay.


Ayodeji is the author of You 2.0 — Stop Feeling Stuck, Reinvent Yourself, and Become a Brand New You. Want a free copy of my first book? Get it here.

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Brazilians on social media make fun of Rio mayor’s attempt to ban Avengers gay kiss

Left: an excerpt from the comic “Young Avengers: the Children’s Crusade”. Right: one of the many spoofs of the image that popped up online.

Marianne Williamson Materializes On Stage In Cloud Of Purple Smoke With Message That DNC Polling Requirements No Match For Power Of Positive Thinking

September 12, 2019 (theonion.com)

HOUSTON—Startling the 10 candidates who qualified to participate in the event, Marianne Williamson materialized on the debate stage in a puff of purple smoke Thursday, proclaiming the Democratic National Committee’s polling requirements were no match for the power of positive thinking. “The DNC thinks I need to get at least 2% in four qualifying polls, but they think so small,” said the author and presidential hopeful, who announced that by unlocking a deep and powerful mental space at the core of her being, she could participate in the debate at Texas Southern University despite having failed to meet the “narrow-minded” threshold set by party leaders. “By avoiding all negative thoughts and putting mind over matter, I have been able to transcend mere material concerns such as poll numbers. While I don’t have the necessary support of voters, I do have something far more valuable: a profound belief in the oneness of all living things.” At press time, sources confirmed a podium of pure light had sprung up before Williamson as she began to answer a question from George Stephanopoulos about how she would respond as president to an economy on the brink of recession.

Pisces Full Moon, September 13-14, 2019

Wendy Cicchetti

Pisces Full Moon, September 13-14, 2019

This Full Mini (farthest away from earth) Moon at 21° Pisces–Virgo intertwines with the opposition of Neptune and Mars at 17° Pisces–Virgo. This planetary “scissors” pattern, with a 4° space between the two oppositions, reflects being on the verge of decisive, cutting-edge action. Yet bringing thoughts and plans to fruition is not easy in an atmosphere of uncertainty. Actions are imagined but not carried out — or are never completed. Something begun in Martian haste could lack follow-through.

Foggy Neptune can manifest in memory lapses. Delays and losses occur due to forgetfulness; thoughts fail to take hold as definitive actions. Conventional astrological wisdom would argue, however, for Neptune acting “more powerfully” in its home sign. Since Neptune links with psychic ability, might a moment of hesitation have more to do with second sight than forgetting? In the light of an unusual vision or a forward-looking projection, considered actions could be seen as less desirable.

In our busy, technological world, we may ignore the subtle processes — including how the subconscious mind registers information ahead of conscious thought. Neuroscientists know this, but we may not always notice how much we rely on intuitive responses to guide our decision-making. Yet we don’t always need to question ourselves when we recognize that we’re relying on instinctive guidance. Neptunian mystery can mean that we may not understand why we feel uneasy about a proposed course of action, but we can still respect the feelings — and any choices they lead to.

It can be difficult to trust an inner “knowing” in the moment, though, perhaps because it seems so subtle compared with the weight of rationale and others’ opinions. If we need more convincing, we could consider a past experience when we ignored an intuitive response and later felt annoyed, since the intuition turned out to be accurate and appropriate. Tuning more deeply into the body’s clues can also help us to recognize whether a situation is right for us. If we still fight our intuition, we might remember that it has its own, inner strength; when we ignore an intuitive prompt, it may respond with a stronger signal. Under this Pisces Full Moon, for instance, we may feel a Mars-style backlash like a stab of pain, warning us to hold back from taking action.

Dane Rudhyar’s interpretation of the Sabian symbol for 22° Pisces — “A prophet carrying tablets of the new law is walking down the slopes of Mount Sinai” (from An Astrological Mandala) — seems pertinent to the Full Moon’s t-square with “truth and faith” Jupiter in Sagittarius. Rudhyar’s keynote reads: “The need to bring down to the level of everyday existence the clear realizations made manifest in a great ‘peak experience’.” This follows naturally from the interpretation for 16° Pisces, the degree of March’s New Moon: “In the quiet of his study a creative individual experiences a flow of inspiration.” Previously, we may have had good ideas and made better sense of life through hunches, but now we need more than reflection — now we must take solid, concrete actions.

A Pisces Full Moon indicates the potential for emotional breakdown, however, where Virgo’s good intentions and perfect plans can derail through emotional triggers shutting down areas of thought. Meanwhile, Venus and Mercury at the critical degree of 29° Virgo carry a “now or never” theme. Do we allow ourselves to be sidetracked by confusion, memory blackouts, and escape mechanisms? Or do we trust the intuitive voice prompting us along another route? Various responses are possible, given Virgo discernment and the Mercurial ability to change position. All of the planets in opposition are in mutable signs, emphasizing an ability to move in different directions — typically, back and forth or left and right — but not necessarily limited only to binary options; perhaps we move diagonally, or in a three-step variation, like chessboard pieces. Familiarity with sacred geometry may provide patterns for protection or change; recovery methods for psychological trauma could offer eye exercises to help in brain-signal rewiring. The Pisces lunation offers multiple choices with potential for powerful changes!

This article is from the Mountain Astrologer, written by Diana Collis.

Erich Fromm on love and need

“Immature love says: “I love you because I need you.” Mature love says: “I need you because I love you.”  — Erich Fromm

Erich Seligmann Fromm (March 23, 1900 – March 18, 1980) was a German Jew who fled the Nazi regime and settled in the US. He was a social psychologist, psychoanalyst, sociologist, humanistic philosopher, and democratic socialist. Wikipedia

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