By COLLIN BINKLEY November 4, 2018 (apnews.com)
Dr. Gabor Maté a renowned specialist in addiction, childhood trauma and stress joins me on the podcast today. We discuss the many forms addiction can take, how we can cope as damaged people in the world and are we being ruled by traumatised politicians? Gabor has a very loving, optimistic and benevolent worldview that you will hopefully benefit from listening to in this episode.
November 13, 2018 | Jill Nagle (wisdomofthebody.com)
One thing I try to remember to say up front to the couples I work with is, “Love brings up everything unlike itself, so that we can heal it.” This came from a quote I heard from Sondra Ray, via the late Geoffrey Karen Dior.
Let’s take that a segment at a time. First,
Love brings up everything unlike itself…
This means that love (and actually, connection or human interaction of any kind, but especially love) draws forth the unhealed parts of ourselves–the parts that do not feel loved. Maybe we are abused, and feel afraid of, or unsafe with, our partner. Maybe we were neglected, and feel alone, even when our partner is truly there for us.
Perhaps we were ridiculed, and feel protective or defensive around our partner. We might even pick people who have these same characteristics, because those unhealed parts of ourselves find them so familiar. Even if our partner were perfect, however, we may still experience them through the lens of our unhealed wounds.
To those young, unhealed parts of us. love represents the attention and spaciousness necessary to finally heal those parts. Only we probably don’t recognize it as such–the inner dialogue can go something like this:
1. Someone is paying attention to me
2. The message kicks in, consciously or not, “I am not safe/worthy/comfortable receiving this loving attention,” or “I cannot trust this”
3. So I push the person away, or throw a wrench into our flow, rather than settling in, receiving the love, and allowing the connection to take deeper root
Harville Hendrix, author of Getting the Love You Want, and Keeping the Love You Find says that we unconsciously pick “Imago” partners, those who embody the best and worst traits of our caretakers. I have seen this some of the time, and, what I also see is people experiencing their partner’s words and actions through an Imago lens, even if the partner does not resemble their caretakers in the least. Knowing that we do this helps us to get a bit of distance…
…so that we can heal it.
This means that, through an attentive, loving partner, we have the opportunity, if both partners are willing, to create space within the relationship for the young, unhealed parts to come forward. We can also do individual work, on our own, using the relationship as fodder to work with a counselor on what comes up for us within the relationship.
The reason I talk with couples about this philosophy up front is that if we’re all on board with this same reality, we can treat difficulties (excluding out-and-out safety threats) in the relationship as opportunities to grow and deepen, instead of taking them at face value, or creating stories that something “is wrong.”
Again, that line is,
Love brings up everything unlike itself, so that we can heal it.
Have you ever approached a relationship this way? Are you willing to try it? If so, please let me know how it goes!
Translators: Mike Zonta, Melissa Goodnight, Richard Branam, Hanz Bolen
SENSE TESTIMONY: Housing certain people has become beyond their financial capacity to pay.
5th Step Conclusions:
1) Truth is one house in infinite manifestation, one being in infinite personification, all of which is paid in full.
2) One Infinite Consciousness Beingness, is always already limitlessly surpassing all means and power necessary to accomplish the boundless expression of individuation dwelling in the abstract.
3) Consciousness Truth Principle is the Everpresent Home and Lord of all theres is, expressing fully and completely in each and every individuation of being and in all creation in abundant peaceful well being. Abundant Gracious Lord Home Consciousness is all there is.
4) Truth fully formulated innately motivated fully appeasing compensation is the essence of COSMIC MINDS’ suitable REAL ESTATE fully constructed in totality, wholeness, and completeness by the hands of truth resonating joyous harmony through and throughout its COSMIC TEMPLE, the dwelling of principle.
Published on Oct 14, 2010
Pearl Jam – Masters Of War on Letterman show. September 30, 2004
Come you masters of war
You that build all the guns
You that build the death planes
You that held all the guns
You that hide behind walls
You that hide behind desks
I just want you to know I can see through your masks
You that never done nothing
But to build to destroy
You play with my world
Like it’s your little toy
You put a drug in my head
Then you hide from my eyes
Then you turn and run following the fast foolish line
Like Judas of old
You lie and decieve
A world war can be won
You want me to believe
But I see through your eyes
And I see through your brain
Like I see through the water that runs down my drain
You that fasten all the triggers
For the others to fire
Then you sit back and watch
While the death count gets higher
You hide in your mansions
While young peoples blood
Flows out of their bodies and is buried in the mud
You’ve thrown the worst fear
That could ever be hurled
The fear to bring children
Into this world
For threatening my baby
Unborn and unnamed
You ain’t worth the blood that runs in your veins
How much do I know
To talk out of turn?
You might say that I’m young
You might say I’m unlearned
But there’s one thing I know
Though I’m younger than you
Even Jesus would never forgive what you do
Let me ask you one question
Is your money that good?
Will it buy you forgiveness?
Do you think that it could?
Oh I think you will find
When your death takes its toll
All the money you made will never buy back your soul
And I hope that you die
And your death’ll come soon
I’ll follow your casket
In the pale afternoon
And I’ll watch as you’re lowered
Into your deathbed
And I’ll stand on your grave till I’m sure that you’re dead
(Submitted by Gwyllm Llwydd.)
Scorpio | Oct. 23 to Nov. 21
Your belief that “there’s no room for second place” creates friction between you and your spouse when you are blessed with twins but disagree over which one to keep.
Sagittarius | Nov. 22 to Dec. 21
Your faith in a well-ordered universe is shattered when Jesus Christ comes down off the cross and beats you with a half-empty gin bottle, screaming that disco is not dead.
Capricorn | Dec. 22 to Jan. 19
You will nearly drown when your classically educated mother submerges you in the Ohio River to give you invincibility.
Aquarius | Jan. 20 to Feb. 18
Your psyche suffers retroactive trauma this week when, after you break up with your scientist lover, he invents a time machine and travels back to the ’70s to ruin your once-happy childhood.
Pisces | Feb. 19 to March 20
They said they’d be right back after those important messages, but the messages weren’t all that important and it’s been almost 14 years.
Aries | March 21 to April 19
November brings with it a need for inner cleansing. Use industrial-grade lye and a long-handled wire brush.
Taurus | April 20 to May 20
That special someone who keeps promising to buy you sexy underwear finally does, but you are unable to persuade him to take it off his head.
Gemini | May 21 to June 20
Your life takes a sudden aggressive and violent turn when you start asking yourself how General Patton would handle workplace conflicts.
Cancer | June 21 to July 22
About this upcoming Thursday: Let that be a lesson to you about to whom you loan power tools, money, and gasoline.
Leo | July 23 to Aug. 22
Those you love most will soon gather together with you and ask a judge to put you away for as long as the law allows.
Virgo | Aug. 23 to Sept. 22
The older you get, the more you’re convinced that we were all put in this retirement home for a reason.
Libra | Sept. 23 to Oct. 22
Learn to appreciate the little joys that life provides, as three days won’t give you much time for the big joys.
“The sick are persistent.”
—Robin Renucci as Doctor/Mayor Daniel Larcher in the series Un Village Français.
My paternal Grandfather served with the US Expeditionary Forces. He struggled with what he experienced and witnessed his whole life. As a youngster of 6, I can recall him giving me advice on life which took me years to decipher. When I did in my 30’s, I realized he was giving me pointers on how to survive trench warfare.
I would posit that he suffered his whole life from PTSD. He was mercurial, happy, warm then angry and shouting sometimes in the span of minutes. I know it affected his family. My father struggled with the legacy of it his whole life.
I think that it would be wise to study history a bit more, and to understand that the bitter fruits of war cascades down through the generations. I have struggled and come to grips with what I can, and how it affected me, through my father, and through his. I have witnessed the damage done to the family who came home, some perhaps whole, some wounded, others addicted to pain meds etc. I have seen the photos of those that didn’t return, leaving a hole in the fabric of their family and friends.
I know this: Good young men who love their community, and enlarging that out their country put their lives on the line, and their sanity as well. When it comes down to it, they are fodder for some munitions company profits, some bank loan to buy the munitions and for some Oligarchs wealthy horde. Our youth, generation after generation have been killed and destroyed in wars they did not make. Their love is turned into something that it should never have been.
They were slaughtered in the millions on the fields of France and Flanders, and elsewhere. The slaughter goes on to this day around the globe.
There is no honour in war. Only death, grief and the destruction of dreams and hopes.
Jen Mills (metro.uk.co)
7 Nov 2018
On the eleventh hour, of the eleventh day, of the eleventh month, the guns fell silent. It brought an end to four years of war which crippled Europe, leaving 17 million dead including 888,246 British or Colonial servicemen. As we approach the centenary of the Armistice on November 11, the Imperial War Museum has released a recording of the moment the war ended, patched together using archive material from their collections. The artillery activity it illustrates was recorded on the American front near the River Moselle, one minute before and one minute after the war ended. Strangely, audio couldn’t be recorded at the time so the Allies created them using ‘sound ranging, which recorded the intensity of noise to photographic film (a seismograph for earthquakes is a good comparison). This visual record allowed the Imperial War Museum to turn the moment back into audio to give an impression of what the moment was like.
After listening to the piece, Tom Davidson said: ‘This soundpiece took me completely by surprise. So moving. I never realised the big guns were firing right up to the hour. ‘I can only wonder at what the silence of the ceasefire meant to those in the trenches. This, then silence, then then The Last Post. Imagine.’ Another woman wrote on Twitter: ‘I spent 15 minutes listening to this over and over, feeling it rattle my bones and thinking about how those involved would have felt upon hearing the silence.’ The audio exhibit was created by sound designers Coda to Coda using a bone conductor, which converts sounds into vibrations. It makes up part of the Imperial War Museum’s exhibition for the centenary of the Armistice, Making a New World.
Read more: https://metro.co.uk/2018/11/07/eerie-recording-reveals-moment-the-guns-fell-silent-at-the-end-of-ww1-8114109/?ito=cbshare
(Submitted by Gwyllm Llwydd.)