Feb 29, 2024 (iamalexmathers.medium.com)
There have been many moments in my life when I felt terrible, weak and victimised.
But here’s what I learned:
Like the slight nudge of the joystick on a plane, you can divert the course of your life by thousands of miles with a tiny shift in mindset.
The nudge you need is not to fall into the following traps:
You’re obsessed with your past.
Your past seems real, but it’s nothing more than an idea. Ideas get people on the moon.
Ideas can also limit you in powerful ways.
If it suffocates your present-day joy, you must find a way to detach from the past.
You think you need ‘fixing.’
Don’t believe the hype sold to us by psychologists.
You don’t need fixing. You only need to grow and learn.
Spending time worrying about your ‘inadequacy’ holds you back unnecessarily.
You have everything you need to navigate life with intelligence.
You think you’re nothing like your ancient ancestors.
‘It’s like the 2020s! Times have changed!’ you shriek.
Put a sock in it, Sebastian.
Your biology and natural instincts don’t give a monkey’s butt about the date on your freaking apple watch.
Evolution is a slow process. Little has changed regarding what lights us up and keeps us alive.
You may want to cover up your danglers in public, but beyond that, do as your ancestors did for optimal health.
You believe your dumb thoughts.
Thoughts are tools.
They are not facts. When we believe a made-up lie in our heads, we’re being foolish.
Please stop allowing your mental estimations about life dictate what’s true.
You will waste time and do regrettable things. Use thoughts as tools, not as your personal fortune-teller.
You think worrying is intelligent.
Worriers often cling to the belief that grinding on visions in their heads is helpful.
It does nothing of the sort except weaken you physically and make you think even dumber thoughts.
Try little, empowering steps. Be courageous, and do not worry.
You treat your body like garbage.
Processed shit is such a regular feature of our diets that most of us are clueless about how good we can feel when we eat what we’re supposed to eat.
The body is a sensitive instrument and continually signals to stop fuelling your dad bod with diesel when it needs unleaded.
You don’t move your hips.
Many of our worries and stresses are locked in our bellies and hips.
We have scary moments in life and seize up.
So when we sit around on our fat asses all day, we never allow the tension to release.
Get moving and thrusting like a parakeet in heat.
You think you are your shitty stories.
‘I’m just a naturally lazy kind of person.’
No, you’re not, asshat.
You just think you are.
You’re not your stories.
Your stories were moulded over years of self-criticism and listening to the opinions of others as though they have authority.
You are everything behind your story.
You think others can influence your worth.
If we could internalise this one idea, our lives would transform in surprising ways.
Screw the law of attraction.
You’re not getting what you want because you’re scared of what others think.
When you realise that other people’s judgements can’t do a THING to your illusory sense of worth, you’ll be strutting about like He-Man on crack in no time.
You believe the media is a valid authority.
Lol.
You think bringing others down is empowering.
Ok, I know what you’re thinking.
‘Alex, aren’t you judging us here? Aren’t you bringing others down with your tone?’
Look beyond the words.
I’m teasing you to lift those of you ready to hear the message. We’re all connected.
So by striking down another, you strike yourself.
You keep making things about you.
Things always go sour when I take things personally.
Why is that?
If someone criticises my work and I go into pouty sulk mode, that’s taking something personally.
We make it about us when really it’s about the work.
Life taught me a major less when I experienced the joy and relief from finally thinking of myself less.
It isn’t about you.
When we let go and turn towards making art and helping others, we become more of ourselves anyway.
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Written by Alex Mathers
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