The Diary Of A CEO Dec 23, 2024 The Diary Of A CEO Bessel van der Kolk is Professor of Psychiatry at Boston University School of Medicine and President of the Trauma Research Foundation. He is the author of the global bestselling book ‘The Body Keeps The Score’. 00:00 Intro 02:17 Bessel’s Mission 02:54 What Is Trauma? 04:22 What Trauma Treatments Do You Disagree With? 05:48 Does Rationalising Your Trauma Help? 06:47 What Is Considered Trauma? 09:26 Can Small Events Lead to Trauma? 10:05 Bessel’s Experience as a Psychiatrist 12:29 Bessel’s Parents 15:17 Consequences of Child Abuse 15:53 Is It Important to Understand Childhood Experiences? 16:28 Was Your Mother an Incest Victim? 17:17 How Many Patients Trace Issues to Childhood Experiences? 17:46 Examples of Child Abuse 19:03 How Culture Influences Parenting 21:37 Disciplining Children 23:49 Liberation Equals Separation 25:29 What Did You Learn for Your Children? 26:46 Medical Treatment for Behavioural Dysfunctions in Children 30:21 Impact of Movement on Healing 31:46 Importance of Secure Attachment to a Caregiver 32:43 Can You Heal from Childhood Trauma? 34:18 The Body Keeps the Score 36:12 Somatic Approach to Healing 36:39 Are Women More in Touch with Somatic Healing? 37:47 Impact of Trauma on Creativity 41:00 Trauma as a Perception 44:50 How Many People Have Trauma? 45:35 How Does Trauma Affect Brain Activity? 49:46 Study: Reliving a Traumatic Event 54:59 Most Radical Improvement in Clinical Practice 55:40 EMDR 57:39 How Effective Is EMDR Therapy? 58:46 Demonstration of EMDR 1:03:57 Breath work 1:05:40 Impact of Yoga on Trauma 1:06:08 Study: Effects of a Weekly Yoga Class 1:07:54 Disconnection and Hypersensitivity 1:10:12 Impact of Physical Activity on Trauma 1:13:01 Picking Up People’s Energy 1:15:47 Challenges of Individualistic Cultures 1:16:33 Role of Community and Social Connections in Trauma 1:17:22 Are Women Better at Forming Connections? 1:18:04 Building Relationships in the Army 1:18:59 Building Connections Through Sports 1:20:04 How to Get By in an Individualistic Society 1:20:59 Are You Optimistic About the Future? 1:21:58 Are You Able to Point Out Anything Good About Trump? 1:22:19 Human Inclination Toward Fighting 1:22:39 Three Ways to Reverse the Damage of Trauma 1:25:38 Types of Brainwaves 1:27:33 Psychedelic Therapy 1:28:12 Body Practices 1:28:53 Is Touch Healing? 1:29:06 Talk Therapy 1:29:31 Bessel’s View on Taking Medications 1:29:53 The Bottom-Up Approach 1:31:38 Does Going to the Gym Help? 1:33:50 Bessel’s View on Psychedelic Therapy 1:37:46 Effects of MDMA 1:39:10 Impact of Psychedelics on Treatment-Resistant Depression 1:40:18 Bessel’s Experience with Psychedelics 1:42:57 How Did Psychedelic Experiences Change You? 1:43:33 Have You Healed from Your Trauma? 1:44:21 Psychodrama 1:49:18 The Rise in ADHD Diagnoses 1:51:31 Cause of ADHD 1:52:28 Is ADHD Over diagnosed? 1:55:06 How Can We Raise Untraumatised Kids? 1:56:09 Helping People in Traumatic Events 1:58:06 Question from the Previous Guest Follow Bessel: Website – https://g2ul0.app.link/fJd55uRwqPb You can purchase Bessel’s book, ‘The Body Keeps The Score’, here: https://amzn.to/3DyhgIY
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ADHD: Repeat Back to People What They Said Before Moving On
One of the real challenges for fast-thinking Hunters is listening deeply when other people are speaking.
FEB 12, 2024 (hunterinafarmersworld.com)
One of the real challenges for fast-thinking Hunters is listening deeply when other people are speaking. Our brains are running so quickly that we want to interrupt and blurt things out before we forget them!
One great strategy to slow down and pay attention also gives people we’re talking with a strong sense of being heard. Here’s the story:
From a psychologist in Oregon:
In school, one of the techniques we learned to use with people when doing psychotherapy is to repeat back to them what they just said. There are two ways to do this: one is to use their own words, which makes them feel like you’re listening to them (an important thing).
The second is to repeat back to them what you understood them to say: this is where you identify miscommunication, and can often help them to see things in a different way.
I lead an Adult ADHD support group, and I’ve shared these techniques with my group’s members. From the feedback I’ve gotten, it’s apparently one of the better social skills that people with ADHD can cultivate. It both teaches them to listen, and also helps in conversation.
I taught them to use phrases like, “So you’re saying that people should always buy used cars instead of new cars?” Or, “It sounds to me like what you’re saying is that used cars are a better value than new cars. Is that right?”
Of course, since the people in my group are all ADHD, they had to come up with dozens of variations and new and different ways to do this, out they all seem to work.
And, for many of them, the reports that I’m nearing are that this simple strategy has vastly improved their functioning, both on the job and in their personal lives.