WE ARE NEVER UPSET FOR THE REASON WE THINK!
This is a widely taught premise in Releasing the Hidden Splendor, Jungian psychology, transpersonal psychology, ACIM, and a mirad collection of other modern new thought.
So here goes…
Your partner likely has nothing to do with how hurt you feel.
When you’re this hurt and convinced your partner is the cause of your pain, you’re almost certainly projecting. And when you project, you wholeheartedly believe your problem is one thing, but it actually comes from something else.
Projection happens when we blame our partners for old hurts. We don’t do it consciously. Conflict triggers unresolved issues from our past – including childhood wounds and disappointments from previous relationships.
It FEELS as if the other person is the cause of our upset, because, after all, he or she is right there with us and so they must be the problem. What else could it be?!
As we self observe, and do some self inquiry we discover the mirror our partner is for us. I think it is so funny how angry, jealous, or sad I have gotten in the past in my relationships. It is growing up and learning.
Are you having fun too? You gotta Laugh!
–Robert McEwen, H.W., M.