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September – The Emotional Function as Given by Nature  

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September

September

The Emotional Function as Given by Nature

September brings our third and last harvest, the harvest of grapes. Grapes symbolize the emotional function by which we experience emotions towards people, places, objects or events. This function empowers us with the ability to feel people’s moods, perceive the motive behind their actions, and in general blend into social situations. The complete spectrum of our emotions extends even wider than this, reaching to potentially transformative emotions that alter the way we see ourselves and the world around us, such as empathy, compassion, and remorse of conscience. This broad spectrum is reflected in the journey a grape undergoes to become wine. It is a journey of many stages that ultimately transforms the grape’s nature into an altogether superior end product. As we shall see, the highest reach of our emotional function is likewise superhuman.

Since the development of our Essence is typically arrested early in life, the emotional function—the function of Essence—is usually atrophied. We only take advantage of its basic emotional output of comradery, humor, and gossip, and rarely benefit from its higher and transformative range. In effect, we have in our possession an instrument of great force yet spend our days fiddling only with its most basic parts. It is as if we used our smartphone only to check the time and our car only to store our belongings. This is a serious waste of potential as well as an objective limitation to inner farming, because the only power that can overrule the instinctive inertia discussed in May and the mechanical momentum discussed in June is emotion.

When we try to study the different qualities of our emotions we stumble upon an underlying attitude that makes their observation particularly difficult. Their very arising sweeps us away. They come with a deep conviction that glues us to them and blinds us to their manifestations. This abandonment of our sense of self in the face of our emotions is called identification and it is here that our labor of September must begin. To be clear, the tendency to identify with any of our functions—whether physical, mental, or emotional—makes self-observation challenging. We are accustomed to calling all our impulses ‘I’ and associate their manifestation with our entirety. Nevertheless, identification exacts its strongest force on our emotional world, particularly in our dealings with others.

As a rule, our undeveloped emotional function distorts our perception of the world by placing ourselves at its center. Everything is about us, everyone is ignoring or conspiring against us, everyone should be considering or acknowledging us. Misled by this bias, we take everything personally and experience difficult emotions about things that need not stimulate any emotions in us whatsoever. “Why did they not think about me? Why did they look at me that way? What will happen if I am proven wrong? If I make a fool of myself? What if I am considered irresponsible?” Our struggle with identification reveals that these habitual considerations are the default state of our emotional function. We cycle through them endlessly. When we do succeed in obtaining this supposedly important validation from our environment, our emotional function quickly works itself into new doubts and concerns. It proves to be a state in search of an object, which means that we can only break free from these emotional considerations by severing the state of identification.

Any action that goes against the need for social validation achieves this: making a public comment we know to be incorrect; restraining our smartness and letting others take credit for coming up with a helpful solution; staying put when a traffic light turns green until the driver behind us honks; dropping our cup at the cafe to make us seem clumsy or careless. Or in short, any deliberate action that paints us as fools and sabotages our need for social validation.

If executed correctly, the effect is instantaneous. A space between ‘I’ and ‘my emotions’ opens up all of a sudden, sparking a brief out-of-body experience. All of a sudden we can observe in real time what was previously invisible to us. But this successful execution depends on the attitude behind our effort. We are playing the fool to sever identification. We are aiming to wedge a crack between our emotions and our budding ability to observe. The moment we lose sight of this, our vanity takes credit for having gone against our habitual reactions, and distorts our original aim. We break free of identification only to rebuild it elsewhere. The practitioner will have to bear this in mind and understand that some of their experiments will succeed, and others will fail. Moreover, the somewhat dramatic examples given above will not always be necessary. We will not always have to employ these extreme measures to sever identification with our emotions. As we gain expertise in inner farming, we will gradually learn more subtle ways of harvesting the same yield.

Harvest involves discrimination. Not all crops are of equal value. Some grape clusters may make fine wine while others need to be discarded lest they detract from our final product. The same applies to our emotions. We must study their different qualities and flavors, and ultimately choose some over others. For this, we must learn to struggle with identification. The farmer who can observe their feelings as they arise in real time—who can see ‘joy,’ ‘expectation,’ ‘disappointment,’ or ‘apprehension’ and resist the urge to call them ‘I’—is positioned favorably before the September harvest. Now can they attempt to fulfill the transformative potential of their emotional function.


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Emotions

Say These 3 Words to Instantly Defuse Your Rage

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by Angela Haupt

Updated Wed, June 10, 2026 (via health.yahoo.com)

Say These 3 Words to Instantly Defuse Your Rage

The next time you’re furious, don’t try to calm down. Just put a name to the anger coursing through your veins.

Say “this is rage”—three words, three seconds—either out loud or silently to yourself, and you’ve already kept the feeling from swallowing you whole. The technique is called affect labeling, and it works by softening the intensity of whatever’s hitting you. “It turns down the volume on something that can feel really intense and overwhelming,” says Lizzie Cleary, a clinical psychologist in Los Angeles. “It makes it a little bit quieter and more understandable.” 

Here’s why such a small move does so much—and how to make it second nature.

Why addressing anger works

“Before you label an emotion, you are the emotion,” says Shannon Sauer-Zavala, a clinical psychologist and mental health treatment researcher in Lexington, Ky. It’s the heat in your chest, the racing thoughts, the urge to do something you’ll regret. The moment you put the feeling into words, it starts to loosen its grip. “When you label an emotion, you take it outside of yourself, and it becomes something you’re feeling, not something you are,” she says.

The wording matters. Psychologists generally recommend saying “This is rage” rather than “I am furious.” The goal is to create distance between yourself and the emotion—to remind yourself that rage is something you’re experiencing, not something you are. That split-second of separation can be powerful. It creates a brief pause between what you’re feeling and what you do next. “The pause allows you to choose with intention, so the emotion isn’t running the show—you are,” Sauer-Zavala says.

There’s a reason why that small shift can feel so powerful. When you’re angry or afraid, your amygdala—the brain’s threat detector—is firing. Naming the feeling pulls a different system online. “When we go through the exercise of observing, naming, labeling, and utilizing language, that tends to activate our prefrontal cortex,” Cleary says, referring to the analytical, language-based part of the brain. Once that happens, the feeling starts to lose steam.

The effect shows up even in the lab. Cleary points to a study in which people with a fear of spiders were asked to approach a live tarantula. The group that was instructed to narrate their fear out loud—saying things like “this is anxiety”—got closer to the spider than those who stayed silent, demonstrating better emotional regulation in the moment. “It makes the experience just a little bit more coherent, a little bit more manageable, and helps people be a little more regulated,” she says.

How to practice affect labeling

When your emotions are running strong, start by naming the dominant one: “This is rage,” “this is anxiety,” “this is grief.” 

Which one it is will determine what you do next and what you need in the moment, whether that’s comfort, a phone call, or a few deep breaths. Each emotion comes with its own pull, Sauer-Zavala says. Anger, for instance, tends to push you to set a boundary. “When you label, you can identify what the emotion is trying to tell you and act accordingly,” she says. If you’re stuck on “I feel awful” after a tense exchange, you might just stew, or fire back something you’ll regret. But if you land on “This is rage,” you can reflect on the fact that someone crossed a line, and pivot your focus to setting a boundary.

Make labeling your emotions a habit

Sauer-Zavala tells beginners to try labeling their big emotions just once a day for a week, rather than treating it as a lifelong project. “You don’t have to become a Zen master,” she says. If you’re fuming in a traffic jam, stewing after a tense meeting, or lying awake ruminating at 2 a.m., name what you’re feeling. Over time, the labels will start to reveal patterns. Cleary asks people to pay attention to which feelings keep surfacing and when—anger that flares every evening, say, or loneliness that creeps in at night. Those throughlines point to the triggers worth addressing. The more you name what you’re feeling, she says, the more you’ll learn about yourself.

(Contributed by Janet Cornwell, H.W., m.)