I think we all have many expectations if we want to admit it or not. Everyday we wake up and have them.
“What am I going to GET today?” Well, our flimsy ego has that question. “If I do this, if I look good to this person, I might GET this or that. We are trained as youngsters to act that way. Be good and you get this and you won’t get that. Reward and punishment” kind of deal. Life becomes a game of acting in an inauthentic way, faking, to get something, or someone. But we always get busted. Time will tell us if that theory becomes true in our life experience. So, why not bust ourselves before the shit hits the fan and we get all sad and disappointed about not getting what the ego thinks it wants? That is an intervention of sorts. The people, places and things we think we need comes out of survival, in the beginning. As kids we have parents we think are god and don’t want to be punished, and we want to be rewarded. B.F Skinner, the psychologist created a whole school of thought on that. He used rats in a cage to prove his theories. Punishment, electric shocks, and rewards, some bits of cheese, as rewards. Many of us go through life trying to get the cheese. Whatever we think that is: attention, approval, pleasures of the senses, bliss, or whatever. The rest of the time we spend trying to avoid the pain of the shock treatment! Could be emotional pain, physical pain, mental pain, or social pain. Simple theory. Anthony Robbins also based his million dollar motivational trainings on this very theory and mopped up financially with that. He thinks the pleasure and pain theory motivates all our behavior.”
“So, test it out, and see if in your life this theory holds water. Are you dancing to that kind of thinking and living? I have done some journaling and investigation of this simple theory, and am still testing it out. Take a look at it with me. I would be curious to hear your outcomes with that?
Robert McEwen, H.W., M.
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