By Mike Zonta, H.W., M. (BB editor)
This is what Kahlil Gibran said about marriage:
Then Almitra spoke again and said, And
what of Marriage, master?
And he answered saying:
You were born together, and together you
shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white
wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the
silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance
Love one another, but make not a bond
Let it rather be a moving sea between
the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from
Give one another of your bread but eat
not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous,
but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone
though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each
For only the hand of Life can contain
And stand together yet not too near
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow
not in each other’s shadow.
Thane (co-founder and late dean of The Prosperos) used to say that although it might appear that he favored some of his students more than others, that that was only an appearance, and that he loved all his students equally.
How could it be any other way? Ontologically speaking, there can be no one true love to the exclusion of all others.
So is marriage really just an outdated idea?
Thane was married four times, he said at one time. But when I knew him for the last twenty years of his life, his love was reserved for his students.
So maybe the real question is: Can a spiritual teacher be married or is their love reserved for their students?
Nuns and priests are supposed to be “brides of Christ.” That makes for some interesting mental images, doesn’t it? But what about the spiritual teachers outside the traditional church, like most Prosperos are or are on their way to becoming?
In my own life, I fall in love almost every day with some person I may have never seen before. If I were married, I would feel extremely disloyal, because I am totally consumed by these experiences.
Fortunately, I am not married (other than to what has been called Christ Consciousness).
Thane used to end his Sunday Meetings in the ’70s at the Inner Space Center in Santa Monica with his tag line: “And love is a many splendoured thing.” With the appropriate music to follow.
So in the spirit and Thane and those Sunday Meetings of long ago:
BTW, this is what Kahlil Gibran said about love:
Then said Almitra, Speak to us of Love.
And he raised his head and looked upon
the people, and there fell a stillness upon
them. And with a great voice he said:
When love beckons to you, follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you yield to
Though the sword hidden among his
pinions may wound you.
And when he speaks to you believe in
Though his voice may shatter your dreams
as the north wind lays waste the garden.
For even as love crowns you so shall he
crucify you. Even as he is for your growth
so is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and
caresses your tenderest branches that quiver
in the sun,
So shall he descend to your roots and
shake them in their clinging to the earth.
Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto
He threshes you to make you naked.
He sifts you to free you from your husks.
He grinds you to whiteness.
He kneads you until you are pliant;
And then he assigns you to his sacred
fire, that you may become sacred bread for
God’s sacred feast.
All these things shall love do unto you
that you may know the secrets of your
heart, and in that knowledge become a
fragment of Life’s heart.
But if in your fear you would seek only
love’s peace and love’s pleasure,
Then it is better for you that you cover
your nakedness and pass out of love’s
Into the seasonless world where you
shall laugh, but not all of your laughter,
and weep, but not all of your tears.
Love gives naught but itself and takes
naught but from itself.
Love possesses not nor would it be
For love is sufficient unto love.
When you love you should not say,
“God is in my heart,” but rather, “I am
in the heart of God.”
And think not you can direct the course
of love, for love, if it finds you worthy,
directs your course.
Love has no other desire but to fulfil
But if you love and must needs have
desires, let these be your desires:
To melt and be like a running brook
that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own under-
standing of love;
And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
To wake at dawn with a winged heart
and give thanks for another day of loving;
To rest at the noon hour and meditate
To return home at eventide with grati-
And then to sleep with a prayer for the
beloved in your heart and a song of praise
upon your lips.