A photographic history of men in love

Published 27th December 2020 (cnn.com)_

Credit: Courtesy Nini-Treadwell Collection/5 Continents Editions

A photographic history of men in love

Written by Oscar Holland, CNN

When Hugh Nini and Neal Treadwell came across an old photograph at an antique store in Dallas, Texas, they saw something of themselves reflected in the image.Taken around 1920, it showed two men in front of a house, posing in a loving embrace at a time when being gay was not only frowned upon but effectively illegal.”It represented us, so we bought the photo, took it home and had it on our desks for six or nine months,” Treadwell recalled in a phone interview from the couple’s home in New York City. “It was a random find, and we never thought we’d find another one.”Yet, in the two decades since, the pair discovered far more — in fact, by scouring auctions, junk stores and flea markets, they’ve amassed an archive of almost 3,000 images of men in love.

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1/10A thin paper photograph, known as a cabinet card, dating back to around 1880. Scroll through to see more images from “Loving: A Photographic History of Men in Love, 1850s-1950s.” Credit: Courtesy Nini-Treadwell Collection/5 Continents EditionsCaptured between the mid-19th century and just after World War II, and taken across five continents, the collection comprises portraits and candid shots of couples lying in bed, picnicking on grass and posing beside their cars. Nini and Treadwell may not know the circumstances in which the pictures were taken, but they believe the subjects’ body language and mutual gazes are, unmistakably, those of romantic lovers.Rare 19th-century images show China at the dawn of photographyNow, they have published more than 300 of the pictures in the book “Loving: A Photographic History of Men in Love, 1850s-1950s.” Together, they offer intimate glimpses into romantic lives that would likely have remained hidden.”This book means, for the first time, that these people, these couples, get to speak for themselves,” Nini said. “They couldn’t do it when they were alive, but they can do it now, and I think that’s really powerful.”

An image believed to be from the turn of the 20th century. Same-sex marriage was legalized in the United States more than 100 years later.

An image believed to be from the turn of the 20th century. Same-sex marriage was legalized in the United States more than 100 years later. Credit: Courtesy Nini-Treadwell Collection/5 Continents EditionsGiven that many of the images come from a time when taking, developing or keeping such photos could pose a significant risk to one’s personal safety — or even freedom — the pictures also represent individual acts of bravery, he added.”These couples did something very risky because they really cared about each other. They memorialized their feelings with these photographs, and then had to hide them forever,” he said.

Forbidden love

The photos show young couples that could have only dreamed of the freedoms afforded to Nini and Treadwell, who wed unofficially in 1992 (and then legally 14 years later, after Massachusetts became the first US state to permit same-sex marriage).Two new exhibitions reaffirm the power of photography for LGBTQ communities worldwideNonetheless, their collection shows historical examples of men exchanging rings and partaking in informal wedding ceremonies. In one image, believed to be from the turn of the 20th century, a young pair are seen holding a sign reading, “Not married but willing to be.”As well as showing the evolution of attitudes, hairstyles and fashion through the decades, the images also chart the development of photography as a medium. The collection’s oldest pictures were made using early forms of camera, and include ambrotypes, which were produced on glass, and daguerreotypes, which appeared on metal plates.

As well as posed portraits, the collection contains pictures of couples lying in bed and having picnics.

As well as posed portraits, the collection contains pictures of couples lying in bed and having picnics. Credit: Courtesy Nini-Treadwell Collection/5 Continents EditionsThe archive travels through to the emergence of paper photography and then photo booths, which, like the various shots taken in the reflections of mirrors, eliminated the need to confide in a photographer.And while Nini and Treadwell know next to nothing about their subjects, they know even less about where the physical photos have been in the decades since.The stories behind 10 of the world’s earliest known photographs“Some of the pictures have creases in them, so perhaps they were folded and put in a wallet, while some are pristine, where they had been tucked in a book or hidden away in a drawer,” Treadwell said.”It’s astonishing to us to wonder what that journey was — not only for the couple but for the photograph being passed along. Was it shared by friends? Was it celebrated by a family? How did it make its way into our hands?”

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An undated image believed to have been taken in the US. Credit: Courtesy Nini-Treadwell Collection/5 Continents EditionsIt is, therefore, left to the viewer to imagine the stories behind each photo. And the breadth of positive responses to the collection is testament to the universality of love, the pair said.”It’s very heart-warming and gratifying to know that it’s meaningful, and that this spans from someone who’s 18 or 20 right up to grandparents who are looking at (the pictures) because their grandchildren are gay. Or it’s an elderly gay person, or straight people — the whole gamut,” Treadwell said.”The message of our book is not about sexuality at all,” Nini added. “Our position is that love doesn’t have a sexuality — it’s universal.”Loving: A Photographic History of Men in Love, 1850s-1950s,” published by 5 Continents Editions, is available now.

(Contributed by Gwyllm Llwydd.)

Why are we hypnotised by tech?

Russell Brand A clip from my Under The Skin podcast with Tristan Harris. Tristan is President and co-founder of Centre for Humane Technology. He is the co-host of the Your Undivided Attention podcast. You might recognise Tristan from the Social Dilemma documentary on Netflix. You can listen to the rest of this podcast episode over on Luminary: http://luminary.link/russell More info on Tristan: www.humanetech.com www.humanetech.com/podcast Twitter: @HumaneTech_ Instagram: @tristanharris Instagram: http://instagram.com/russellbrand/ Twitter: http://twitter.com/rustyrockets Produced by Jenny May Finn (Instagram: @jennymayfinn)

Unforgettable Emotional War Dance Wedding Ceremony – The HAKA, New Zealand

Jiri VonDrak THE HAKA WEDDING CEREMONY The haka is a ceremonial dance or challenge in Māori culture. It is a posture dance performed by a group, with vigorous movements and stamping of the feet with rhythmically shouted accompaniment. Although commonly associated with the traditional battle preparations of male warriors, haka have long been performed by both men and women, and several varieties of the dance fulfil social functions within Māori culture. Haka are performed to welcome distinguished guests, or to acknowledge great achievements, occasions or funerals. Kapa haka (performing arts, literally line dance) groups are very common in schools. The main Māori performing arts competition, Te Matatini, takes place every two years. Enjoy Jiri

Full Moon In Cancer – A Deeper Truth

by Astro Butterfly (astrobutterfly.com

On December 29th, 2020 (December 30th, 2020 in Europe and Asia) we have the last Full Moon of the year.

The Full Moon is at 8° Cancer and it is sextile Uranus in Taurus and opposite Mercury in Capricorn.

Both Mercury and Uranus deal with the mental plane.

Mercury with our primary thinking processes.

Uranus with what’s beyond our limited human consciousness – the higher mental plane. A good metaphor astrologers use to describe Uranus transits is “divine downloads of information”.

Something out of your conscious mind comes to you much like an impulse, like an electrical current – and it is so powerful, so enlightening, that you can’t do anything but LISTEN to it. Call it intuition, synchronicity, or an omen – it will bug you and bug you until you acknowledge it.

At the Full Moon in Cancer, you may feel conflicted about some news or information you learn about (Full Moon opposite Mercury).

The Uranus sextile message is clear though: open your mind and new doors of perception will open. There is always a reason “why” things happen the way they do. And the process of acknowledging this deeper truth can be extremely liberating.

The Sabian symbol of the Full Moon is “A small girl bends over a pond trying to catch a fish”.

The Sabian symbol is a metaphor for the innocent and spontaneous mind, that is not bound by dogmas or driven by the orthodoxy of the past.

Knowledge is elusive and mysterious, and sometimes we can’t grasp it at an intellectual level alone – we must employ our emotions as well. Within Cancer’s cardinal waters, if something ‘feels’ right, then it probably is right.

At the time of the Full Moon, Venus is conjunct South Node in Sagittarius. This transit goes in the same direction. Sagittarius is the sign of higher knowledge. Venus is our values and feelings, and the South Node is a release point. If something ‘feels’ true, then it probably is true.

Full Moons and South Node transits both have a strong ‘culminating’ vibe. They are an energy peak that seeks release. If you have an idea, share it with others. If you have a project inside you, birth it into existence.

Cancer is a feminine and manifesting sign. Cancer is the family, the roots, the womb of creation, the safe, nurturing space where life is formed. Cancer is the source, the root cause, the deeper truth.

Our home, family, parents, our culture of origin are deeper truths that cannot be questioned. We cannot change our parents (even if we’d like to). We cannot erase hundreds and thousands of years of cultural conditioning.

Of course, we cannot remain trapped in the past either. Capricorn (Cancer’s alter ego) asks us to continuously reinvent ourselves. But we can only do this when we know where we’ve come from.

Cancer is a cardinal, initiating sign. The Full Moon in Cancer can be that turning point that will set your life in a new direction, a direction that is truer, more authentic, and more inspirational to you. It is about time. A new year and new adventures await you.

PS: inside the AGE OF AQUARIUS Community, at the Full Moon we have a column called “Member spotlight”. Each month, one of the Community members gets the chance to share their magic – their music, art, project, business – or whatever it is that makes them unique.

Inside the Community, we believe every single one of us can contribute and make a difference. In true Aquarian spirit, AGE OF AQUARIUS is a bottom-up community where members get to express themselves, share their wisdom and experiences, and collaborate with others. You can join us here:


Book: “The Code of the Extraordinary Mind: 10 Unconventional Laws to Redefine Your Life and Succeed On Your Own Terms”

The Code of the Extraordinary Mind: 10 Unconventional Laws to Redefine Your Life and Succeed On Your Own Terms

The Code of the Extraordinary Mind: 10 Unconventional Laws to Redefine Your Life and Succeed On Your Own Terms

by Vishen Lakhiani 

What if you questioned everything you know and threw out all the pieces that hold you back? With The Code of the Extraordinary Mind, you can.

Learn to think like the greatest creative minds of our era—to question, challenge, and create new rules for your ideas of love, education, spirituality, work, happiness, and meaning. The Code of the Extraordinary Mind is a blueprint for retraining our minds to hack everything—how we work, love, parent, and heal—and learn to succeed on our own terms.

No matter where you’re starting from, you can build a life that’s truly extraordinary and make a dent in the universe. In this book, you will learn to bend reality, question the brules, transcend the culturescape, embrace your quest, practice consciousness engineering, live in blissipline, and push humanity forward. You will question your limits and realize that there are none. Your understanding of the world around you and your place in it will change, and you will find yourself operating at a new, extraordinary level in every way—with happiness, purpose, fulfillment, and love.


Why You Should Hate Your Job

The case against the work ethic.

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Issue 66, 1st May 2018 (iai.tv)

John Danaher 

| Lecturer in Philosophy of Law at NUI Galway. His work focuses on emerging technologies and the philosophy of punishment.

Do you like your job? Maybe you do, but I think you should reevaluate. At the very least, I think you should be uncomfortable with the fact that you live in a system that compels you to have a job, particularly if that job is neither necessary for your own well-being nor the well-being of others. Thanks to advances in robotics and AI, we may be close to building a society in which work, as we currently know it, is no longer necessary for either of these things. Far from being a cause for concern, this is something we should welcome. The work ethic is a cultural virus, something that has infected our minds and our institutions. We need to be inoculated.

Don’t get me wrong. It’s not that there is no place for determined effort, self-improvement and ambition in the well-lived life. Mastering skills, making a contribution to one’s society, and achieving goals are all key elements of the good life. They are also, as the philosophers Anca Gheaus and Lisa Herzog point out, things that are made possible through paid employment. But is the workplace really the best place to pursue such ends? I don’t think so. As currently constituted, it offers us a second-rate forum for their pursuit, one that requires us to bend to the will of the market and follow prescribed norms. Although there are many problems with the world of work, there are three aspects of it that I want to draw attention to here. Each of them supports the view that we should resist the ideology (i.e. the work ethic) that underlies the current system.


“Enough of this. We are being sold a myth. Internalising the work ethic is not the gateway to a better life; it is a trap.”


The first is that the work ethic fosters a culture of perpetual disappointment. This is toxic and ultimately self-defeating. From an early age, we are told that the key markers of success in life are grit and the capacity to delay gratification. To get ahead in life we need to knuckle down, put in our 10,000 hours, and plan our future careers. We need to work hard at school, fill our spare time with extra-curricular good deeds, build this into an impressive college application, study hard for another 4 years or more, build up lots of debt in the process, get a low-paying temporary gig at a start-up, show-up and suck-up, work all the hours that we can, and then maybe, just maybe, it will all payoff. By our early thirties, we might win the job lottery and be able consider buying an overpriced house in a distant suburb. We might be able to consider settling down, and starting a family (though don’t get too complacent; you’ll have to work even harder to cover the childcare costs).

Enough of this. We are being sold a myth. Internalising the work ethic is not the gateway to a better life; it is a trap. There is undoubtedly some value to grit and hard work. A sense of achievement, and triumphing over the odds, can be satisfying. But moderation in all things. Forever delaying gratification to future is a surefire recipe for disappointment with the present. It’s like being in an arms race against yourself, constantly beating yourself up for failing to maximise your potential. This is, unfortunately, the script that many of us follow. Anyone employed in higher education (as I am) will be familiar with the toxic effects of this ideology. Academics are constantly pushed to do more — more publications, more citations, more events, more funding — and to measure their self-worth by maximising their metrics. Students are also being blocked from enjoying education for its own sake. They are trained to interpret it all through the lens of employability. How will this look on my CV? What can I do to get an edge in the job market?


“We could tolerate this hyper-competitiveness if it led somewhere positive — if at the end of it all the golden ticket of the perfect job awaited us. But…the reality of work, for most people, is far from ideal.”


We could tolerate this hyper-competitiveness if it led somewhere positive — if at the end of it all the golden ticket of the perfect job awaited us. But that’s where we run into the second problem. The reality of work, for most people, is far from ideal. The polling company Gallup has been conducting State of the Global Workplace surveys for several years. These surveys are large, typically involving over 200,000 respondents from over 150 countries, and they assess how ‘engaged’ people are by their work. They do so by testing people’s responses to twelve statements, covering their sense of motivation, inclusion and purpose at work. In the 2017 iteration of the survey, Gallup reported that only 15% of workers globally were engaged at work, a very slight uptick from 2013 when it was 13%. Of course, the figures vary from country-to-country, but overall tendency is clearly negative. In no country does the engagement figure exceed 40%, and it is shockingly low in some regions: only 6% of workers in Asia and 10% of workers in Western Europe are engaged at work. This compares with just over 30% in the United States, which is ranked as one of most highly engaged workforces.

These figures underscore just how destructive the ideology of work can be. The modern system of work is one that encourages competitiveness, anxiety and jealousy: good jobs are difficult to come by and you have to work exceptionally hard just to make yourself employable. What is all this anxiety and competitiveness for? Not much seems to be the answer. The majority of people who find work don’t enjoy it. Other studies support this view. For example, climbing the ladder and earning more money does not seem to improve emotional, day-to-day experiences of well-being. There is, rather, a threshold of income where this reaches it peak, estimated to be approximately $75,000 in the US in 2010, but varying depending on the cost of living. This is not to say that all the work that gets done in the economy contributes nothing. Increases in national income and productivity do correlate with increases in self-reported levels of happiness and life satisfaction and innovation and productivity obviously help in the distribution of important goods and services (e.g. food, healthcare). But the critical question is whether humans should be the ones doing all the work? My answer is that we shouldn’t, not if it doesn’t make us happy and not if the machines could do the majority of it.


“Doubling down on the work ethic in an era in which an increasing number of work tasks can be automated is likely to make things worse for future generations.”


And that brings me to the final aspect of work to which I wish to draw attention. Doubling down on the work ethic in an era in which an increasing number of work tasks can be automated is likely to make things worse for future generations.  More and better education is often touted as the solution to rising automation. Young people must be equipped with the cognitive and manual dexterity they need to outpace the machines. Higher education, in particular, is thought to be the key to this, with studies frequently showing that those who attend university earn a significant wage premium over the course of their lifetimes (whether this is due to students actually learning valuable skills, or simply because of a signaling effect, is a debate for another day — what matters here is what people are encouraged to do, not what ultimately happens to them).

There is, however, a catch. Attending university is not cheap. Even if the tuition fees are low or free (or their payment is delayed through some conditional loan agreement) there is still considerable expense associated with accommodation, food, resources and so on. Many students are required to work part-time jobs to get by. The problem is that the kinds of jobs they often work in — customer services, food service and other forms of low-skilled labour — are now becoming increasingly susceptible to automation (and increasingly unpleasant due to the rise of precarious employment platforms). This lays the foundations for a potential ‘cycle of immiseration’: machines increasingly substitute for young unskilled labour, which limits the ability of young people to invest in their own skill acquisition (education) and physical capital (housing etc.). This means they face a double disadvantage: increased susceptibility to automation and decreased capacity to upskill and uplift themselves. This could have a significant impact on intergenerational equity. Future generations will become relatively poorer compared to past generations, and our capacity to renew our societies in the face of technologically-induced displacement will be curtailed.

This needs to be stopped. The economic progress of the past 200 years has brought many unquestioned benefits. But we should question whether compelling humans to work is essential to the continuation of that progress.

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Can Our Jobs Make Us Happy?

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The Death of the 9-5

John Danaher
Issue 66, 1st May 2018

Ontology Book Club – Spring 2021

We are living during interesting times! The strangeness of COVID – with it’s MASK-wearing mandate and Self-Isolation – is actually a PERFECT DOORWAY for us to take a PAUSE, read a book and join The Ontology Book Club! We will meet every two weeks for 90 minutes on a Saturday beginning February 1, 2021 – on ZOOM. See below for more details.

Let’s admit that COVID is a perfect opportunity for us  to read a good book, learn a few things, to safely meet online with other people, share concerns and mindfully explore relevant insights.

Led by Heather C. Williams, HWM,High Watch Mentor, The Prosperos School of Ontology
Register: The Ontology Book Club – Spring of 2021
FEE: Contribution Basis
Choose: Book Club #1 – Book Club #2 – or both!

THE ONTOLOGY BOOK CLUB – Spring of 2021For people interested in Ontology (the science of BEING).

What is Ontology? It is the science or “study” of Beingness. Interestingly, “Beingness” is the formless part of us that is always present within us back and behind the world of physical objects, trees, bodies, things. It is the intelligence of LIFE. While the physical world thoroughly captures our attention, we can also learn to PAUSE and become aware of just being aware. 

Knowing others is wisdom. Knowing the self is enlightenment.”  (Lao Tsu, sutra 33 Tao Te Ching)

“If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you.”  (Jesus in The Gnostic Gospels)

Books we will read this spring: 

  1. Why Religion? by Elaine Pagels (Feb 1 and 15)
  2. Self Observation by Red Hawk (Feb 29 and March 14)
  3. The Power of Myth by Joseph Campbell (March 27 and April 10)
  4. The Gnostic Gospels by Elaine Pagels (April 24 and May 8)

Order your books online (Amazon or other bookstores) or get the books at your local library.NOTE: Our zoom meetings will be enhanced with gentle drawing / writing activities to help you personalize your insights and deepen your understanding of the author’s words.

ONTOLOGY BOOK CLUB #1Please register before enrollment closes on January 18 The Ontology Book Club – Spring of 20214 Saturday mornings – February 1, 15, 29 and March 14, 2021We meet online for 90 minutes to share our insights, questions and reflections.9:00 am Pacific; 10:00 am Mtn; 11:00 am Central; Noon Eastern; 6:00 pm Amsterdam; 7:00 pm Turkey

Why Religion? by Elaine Pagels ($12.19 on Amazon)Saturday February 1Discuss Chapters #1-4
Saturday February 15Discuss Chapters #5-8
Self Observation by Red Hawk ($14.95 on Amazon)Saturday February 29Discuss Chapters #1-10Saturday March 14Discuss Chapters #11-20

ONTOLOGY BOOK CLUB #2Please register before enrollment closes on March 19. The Ontology Book Club – Spring of 20214 Saturday mornings – March 27, April 10, 24 and May 8, 2021We meet for 90 minutes – same time zones as Book Club #1

The Power of Myth by Joseph Campbell  ($14.49 on Amazon)Saturday, March 27 Discuss Chapters 1-5Saturday, April 10Discuss Chapters 6-10
The Gnostic Gospels by Elaine Pagels ($7.99 Amazon)Saturday, April 24 Discuss Chapters 1-3Saturday, May 8 Discuss Chapters 4-6

BE safe and BEautiful,

Heather C. Williams, H.W.,M. High Watch Mentor,
The Prosperos School of Ontology
Author, Drawing as a Sacred Activity

William Wordsworth: The World Is Too Much With Us

The world is too much with us; late and soon,
Getting and spending, we lay waste our powers;—
Little we see in Nature that is ours;
We have given our hearts away, a sordid boon!
This Sea that bares her bosom to the moon;
The winds that will be howling at all hours,
And are up-gathered now like sleeping flowers;
For this, for everything, we are out of tune;
It moves us not. Great God! I’d rather be
A Pagan suckled in a creed outworn;
So might I, standing on this pleasant lea,
Have glimpses that would make me less forlorn;
Have sight of Proteus rising from the sea;
Or hear old Triton blow his wreathèd horn.