New Thinking Allowed with Jeffrey Mishlove Feb 17, 2026 Psychology and Psychotherapy David Hanscom, MD, is author of, Back in Control: A Surgeon’s Roadmap Out of Chronic Pain and Do You Really Need Spine Surgery?: Take Control with a Spine Surgeon’s Advice. Dr. Hanscom is an orthopedic complex spinal deformity surgeon who quit his surgical practice in 2019 to focus on teaching people how to break loose from the grip of chronic mental and physical pain – with and without surgery. His insights arose out of escaping from his own 15-year ordeal of suffering with severe chronic pain. As he began to share his approaches with his patients, a predictable sequence of learning evolved. It is reflected in the self-directed action plan that he created, The DOC (Direct your Own Care) Journey. His website is backincontrol.com. David explores how our responses to others’ suffering influence both physical and psychological pain. He describes how schadenfreude — taking pleasure in another person’s suffering — can bring temporary relief, while compassion toward oneself and others may have longer-term effects. Helping others and experiencing connection can support healing, suggesting that altruism may contribute to lasting changes in consciousness and well-being. 00:00 Introduction 02:42 Unwanted thoughts 08:41 Dynamic Healing Model 17:47 Mental rigidity and belief systems 18:57 Schadenfreude, pain relief, and ego 27:49 Altruism and compassion 30:54 Authoritarianism and chaos 37:24 Awareness and connection 43:01 Transgressions, safety, and transformation 50:10 Conclusion New Thinking Allowed CoHost, Emmy Vadnais, OTR/L, is a licensed occupational therapist, intuitive healer and coach, and spiritual guide based in St. Paul, Minnesota. Emmy is the founder of the Intuitive Connections and Holistic OT communities. She is the author of Intuitive Development: How to Trust Your Inner Knowing for Guidance With Relationships, Health, and Spirituality. Her website is https://emmyvadnais.com (Recorded on January 12, 2026)
The Joy of Pain: Schadenfreude and the Dark Side of Human Nature
Richard H. Smith
Few people will easily admit to taking pleasure in the misfortunes of others. But who doesn’t enjoy it when an arrogant but untalented contestant is humiliated on American Idol, or when the embarrassing vice of a self-righteous politician is exposed, or even when an envied friend suffers a small setback? The truth is that joy in someone else’s pain-known by the German word schadenfreude –permeates our society.
In The Joy of Pain, psychologist Richard Smith, one of the world’s foremost authorities on envy and shame, sheds much light on a feeling we dare not admit. Smith argues that schadenfreude is a natural human emotion, one worth taking a closer look at, as it reveals much about who we are as human beings. We have a passion for justice. Sometimes, schadenfreude can feel like getting one’s revenge, when the suffering person has previously harmed us. But most of us are also motivated to feel good about ourselves, Smith notes, and look for ways to maintain a positive sense of self. One common way to do this is to compare ourselves to others and find areas where we are better. Similarly, the downfall of others–especially when they have seemed superior to us–can lead to a boost in our self-esteem, a lessening of feelings of inferiority. This is often at the root of schadenfreude. As the author points out, most instances of schadenfreude are harmless, on par with the pleasures of light gossip. Yet we must also be mindful that envy can motivate, without full awareness, the engineering of the misfortune we delight in. And envy-induced aggression can take us into dark territory indeed, as Smith shows as he examines the role of envy and schadenfreude in the Nazi persecution of the Jews.
Filled with engaging examples of schadenfreude, from popular reality shows to the Duke-Kentucky basketball rivalry, The Joy of Pain provides an intriguing glimpse into a hidden corner of the human psyche.
About the author
Richard H. Smith
Richard Smith is a social psychologist and writer of nonfiction and fiction. He has written or edited books on envy, jealousy, and schadenfreude. His first novel, Blockbuster, was published in June 2020. He also writes a blog for Psychology Today and dabbles in photography.