Henry Giardina March 5, 2026 (queerty.com)
Fleabag may have given us Andrew Scott’s unbearably hot priest, but one real-life man of the cloth is giving even Scott a run for his money. The catch? For this Italian stallion, the priesthood is standing in the way of what he really wants to do: have sex.
“I could have decided to live in a grey area and lead a double life, as perhaps other priests do,” he told the Telegraph recently. “But at a certain point, I realized that it wasn’t right. I don’t agree with celibacy or the doctrine that supports it.”
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We can’t blame him. Anyone who’s seen Alberto Ravagnani’s face and physique get why celibacy is way too big an ask for the viral Milanese ex-priest. But while laypeople fully understand Ravagnani’s exit and its all-too-human motivations, the church sees it differently.
“The reduction of sexuality to self-expression rather than self-giving unfortunately appears to be the logic at work in Ravagnani’s account,” writes one disgruntled Catholic. But there’s much more to the story than Ravagnani’s high follower count and influencer bona fides. Ravagnani is part of a broader problem the church seems to be having with younger followers.
Ravagnani’s high profile exit in early February sent shock waves through the Catholic community, and honestly, it’s a community that needed a bit of shaking up. While Pope Francis went a long way toward acknowledging the humanity and spirituality of LGBTQ+ Catholics and Pope Leo seems intent on keeping that tolerance alive, the church’s recent statement was a blow to those wishing for more radical, inclusive change on an official level.
“I find it hypocritical that…my sexuality and my ability to have a relationship with someone else is not considered beautiful,” Ravagnani said after making the choice to leave. “It was touching my flesh, my whole humanity,” he explained.
Even before this move, the sexy priest caused plenty of friction after his YouTube channel started blowing up online, causing his superiors to basically tell him to stop being so hot and muscular and online…or else. Now, Ravagnani is trading in being scolded by the diocese for a full-time career continuing his teaching and faith-based work as a non-clergy member. He’s also written a book about his decision to leave, titled “The Choice.”
Ravagnani identifies as straight, but he’s fighting a parallel fight for sexual recognition and tolerance. And while some might see it as a trivial fight, anyone who knows just how sex-negative the Catholic church is knows exactly how important it is for young people to push back against the anti-sex conservatism that’s holding it back—and keeping younger Catholics from wanting to continue its traditions.
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As Ravagnani reminds us, sometimes leaving a toxic work environment is the best, and healthiest decision you can make. And as work environments go, it doesn’t get much more toxic than the priesthood. Last year, another young priest, 35-year-old Matteo Balzano, took his own life after a struggle with loneliness and personal demons. But considering that Balzano’s name previously appeared on a list of priests willing to offer blessings to gay couples, some suspect there’s more to the story. For modern men looking to find their vocation in the church, the celibacy part—not to mention the “don’t be gay” part—is increasingly seen as a bridge too far.
As far as Ravagnani is concerned, we have a feeling he’ll have no trouble in his future career endeavors. And as far as Jesus is concerned, we’re pretty sure he’ll give Ravagnani a pass. If it’s not already a sin to waste a face like that behind a cleric’s collar, it should be.
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Henry Giardina (he/they) is an Assistant Editor at Queerty. Past publications include the New York Times, The Believer, The New Yorker, The Paris Review Daily, The Atlantic, Film Comment, and Gizmodo. He is @punkgroucho on Twitter.